Ahhh...visitors....

When you have a baby with colic, visitors aren't always something to look forward to. I felt really bad about this. After week 4, I just wanted people to stay away. The scenarios were as follows:

1. I had finally gotten baby calm and someone wants to come over and see him. Of course, they want to hold him and cuddle him and do all things baby. However, I know that the moment he opens his eyes, he will begin to wail and then I am the one who has to calm him down. It could take hours and it will most likely be the thing that ends this visit.

2. I welcome company and adult conversation and put baby in the sling and wear him the entire time, politely refusing to remove him and allow him to be held. The baby sleeps, but friends go away dissapointed that they did not get to hold him and cuddle him and do all things baby. Unless they have had a fussy baby, they have no idea why I refuse to hand over the howler.

3. Someone who actually has a special way with babies comes over and holds the baby, cuddles him and does all things baby and he doesn't cry(my dear friend, Sarah). Sarah is a baby whisperer. She doesn't know why and neither do I. Nor do I care. All I know is that when she comes over, she can hold baby and he will either look at her lovingly or fall asleep. I, in that moment in time, am free to sit down, maybe eat a bite, go to the bathroom and fix myself a fresh glass of water....all of which I have been putting off all day because I can't do most of these things with one hand. (I have however mastered the art of eating with one hand and thanks to the sling, going to the bathroom while baby is wailing). I do not have any criteria for spotting these special people.

Your friends will have plenty of time to gooch your baby's cheeks when he is a little older and less fussy. Do what you have to do for your sanity. If all else fails, refert them to this blog and tell them I told you to be baby selfish. I'll take the blame......I've got your back. We bleary eyed parents of fussy babies have to stick together.