High need is a polite way of describing a baby that screams constantly. Parents of these "high need" howlers are accustomed to pacing the floors, boucing, swaying, shhhh'ing, singing, humming and yes, even crying WITH the baby. We read countless books....some helpful, some not....to try to find the key to unlock our babies happiness and peace. We blame ourselves for their obvious discontent with the world and life in general as somehow, somewhere we must not be doing SOMETHING right.
We secretly resent the parents of babies that speak of things such as sleeping through the night, taking baby to the store, two hour naps and peaceful smiling cooing faces. We restrain ourselves from physically assaulting those moms who speak of the early days of infancy and babyhood as the "sweetest time of my life". These moms also seem to have found a way to put their baby down long enough to put on makeup, style their hair and pick out matching clothes for both themselves and junior. Meanwhile, I'm just happy to be out of my pajamas and have my teeth brushed before noon.
This blog is intended to set you free as I have set myself free. I accept my baby's temperament as part of his/her being and not a result of my parenting skills . I also intend to encourage you to remain strong. At 8 months old, my high need howler has become quite pleasant, though I would not say low maintenance. These days go by quickly and they do get easier. Enjoy reading my thoughts, insights and stories...both amusing and heartbreaking....and know that you are not alone.
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