People make a lot of assumptions about you when you have a fussy baby. I remember when I went back to work at weeks post partum, people expected to see the bags under my eyes. Six months later, people notice and comment....."that baby is still not sleeping through the night??? You are spoiling him. You need to let him cry it out." It does no good to try to explain to someone that my babys cry could possibly be used as psychological torture at Guantonomo Bay. Not only is it loud, but it is desperate and relentless. That cry speaks to me as a mother and says, "I have no idea what I need but please don't leave me alone." It goes against everything in my being to ignore it or allow it to continue past about 10 minutes(the longest 10 minutes of your life). These babies are different. They DO need something. I refuse to believe that cry is one of manipulation. My son does have the ability to do that, but is is a different cry altogether and as a mom, I know it.
It has taught me much about judging the way anyone parents. You never know what that parent is dealing with and what is behind their seemingly quirky ways. Isn't it enough that we all have the hardest job in the world??? Support your local fussy baby mama......it could save her sanity.
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Wow...you are so right about the assumptions....I heard all sorts of advise much like what you hear from others...but it goes against the grain to let it continue after a certain amount of time or the men with the white coats will come get you...ha ha ha! That is just how I felt sometimes with Ryan when he was an infant...he was a terrible baby. Jennifer on the other hand was great! It amazes me to look at them and see just how different they are....weird, huh??!! hang in there...if anyone can do it, you can!! Love ya, Sharan
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